Domestic abuse often begins subtly, with behaviours that may seem harmless or even loving at first glance. However, over time, these actions can escalate into patterns of control, manipulation and harm. By familiarising ourselves with the red flags of abuse, we can better identify unhealthy dynamics within our relationships and take proactive steps to protect ourselves and our loved ones.
Physical Abuse: This may include hitting, punching, kicking, or any form of physical violence. Remember that physical abuse is never justified and should never be tolerated.
Emotional and Psychological Abuse: Signs of emotional abuse can be harder to recognise but are no less damaging. These may include constant criticism, belittling, gaslighting (manipulating someone into questioning their own reality), and threats of harm.
Sexual Abuse: Sexual abuse within intimate relationships can take many forms, including coercion, unwanted advances, sexual assault, or the imposition of control over sexual decisions and boundaries.
Financial Abuse: Controlling finances can be a tactic used to exert power and control over a partner. This may involve restricting access to money, withholding financial resources, or sabotaging employment or educational opportunities.
Isolation: Abusers often seek to isolate their victims from friends, family and support networks, making it harder for them to seek help or escape the abusive situation.
Intimidation and Threats: Threats of violence, harm to loved ones, or destruction of property are common tactics used by abusers to instil fear and maintain control over their victims.
Blaming and Excusing Behavior: Perpetrators of abuse may shift blame onto the victim, minimising or excusing their actions as justified or provoked.
Control: Domineering behaviour and attempts to control every aspect of a partner’s life, including their movements, interactions and decisions, are hallmark signs of an abusive relationship.
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Contact details for immediate Help and Support
In an emergency, dial 999
- Gov.UK Domestic abuse: how to get help – GOV.UK (www.gov.uk)
- Refuge For women and children. Against domestic violence Homepage – National Domestic Abuse Helpline (nationaldahelpline.org.uk)
- National Domestic Abuse Freephone 24-hour Helpline 0808 2000 247
- Women’s aid Home – Women’s Aid (womensaid.org.uk) Email: info@womensaid.org.uk
Women’s aid Survivors handbook
0808 801 0327
- Victim Support Free, independent and confidential 24/7 Supportline 08 08 16 89 111
